Peoples forum: Why Powerful Wall Street Men Gamble WIth Women

The letters below were sent to us by a woman who had a long term affair with an older powerful married man. After the relationship "agreement" they had was broken off she started to send us these letters, feeling there was an injustice done to her.

We believe that the very nature of the situation made both parties participants in a manner that from the onset precluded any righteous indignation. Any agreements made would have to be taken within the context of impropriety that gave birth to the relationship. Both parties played with fire and neither should complain when and if they get burnt. Is Maryam right or wrong? Click here or scroll to the botttom of the page to take our Poll and .

By Maryam

. Editors Note: We will not print the last names or reveal the identity of any party without their knowledge. If any details in the future become to revealing we will edit them. Any edits will be highlighted in blue lettering and the edit will be explained in parenthesis. All graphics & polls are from The Palm Beach Times, not the author of these letters.

Am I a gold digger or a person looking for comfort?
To answer this question, I invite you to put yourself in my position and see if you would have endured the wonderful arrangement which was abruptly ended with a phone message a few days before Christmas 2003.

The terms of our relationship were very simple: No vacations together. No dinner dates together in public. No weekend visits. No more than one visit a week. No social or public functions together.

One monthly trip to Florida at the Palm Beach Ritz Carlton for 4 to 5 enchanting days where we would meet while he resided in Boca Raton Florida. An apartment in New York City to meet in secrecy. One daily phone call from him, seven days a week for a brief 10 minutes. No trips for me while he was in town except on weekends, since he did not go into the office on Fridays.

No contractual work project for me which would have complicated our secret life. And the most important rule of all: listen, listen and listen again and again to all the details of his family life, the good times and the bad times. All the details of the birth of his four grandchildren. All the secret and intimate details of the lives of his wife and her two sisters. All the details of their moves during the last four years.

All the stories about the Building in New York City to his latest move to N.J. last summer 2003. All the stories of his two wonderful daughters and son-in-laws. All their adventures while on vacation in Spain during the 9-11 attack and how his family and friends were able to escape from the city just in time.

All their friends stories (and believe me, the more money you have, the taller the tales); All his previous girlfriends story including the one who was so important to him that he thought about leaving his wife for her but surprisingly, did not.

All the stories about his friends from the Amigos at the Broken Sounds Golf Club Florida. I remember with great fondness his wife regular Bridge Night. He would call me from his home and we would talk until he'd see the headlights of her car in the driveway.

We shared and experienced so many things during these intimate conversations on the Bridge Night of his wife. Of course, I agreed and complied with the terms of our mutual agreement because it's the way he decided to play the ball.

In my book, whether they are rich or poor, men need to hunt. Sometimes they do and magic happens. In my case, the magic lasted eight years. Men need to go after what is forbidden to them, the excitement it procures makes them desire more and more. Generally, when they are rich and powerful, they get whatever they want whenever they want.

But please, gentlemen, take heed: Women are NOT disposable toys with a price tag although I am sure you probably rank them as either cheap or expensive. I guess the only fair counterpart we are left with is about when and how we will come out?

In other words, can you cancel the agreement unilaterally after eight years? I don't think so. Who is this man who dumps me like a cheap trick, with a curt voice message? Love can move mountains, imagine what can be moved by eight years of trust, devotion and passion. Honestly, I don't have a choice, I will stand up for my rights and dignity and I think he should do the same. To be continued

Part Two was sent to The Palm Beach Times 25 days later

No I did not forget to continue my story concerning My Powerful Wall Street man but I am terribly busy these days. I will now tell you how this secret story became public just because My Powerful Wall Street man decided so.

To my biggest surprise one morning in the late spring of 2002, during his daily phone call to me, his voice sounded as happy as I ever heard from him. My powerful Wall Street man announced me he just had break free from our 8 years secret agreement and told his best friend named Allan about it.

I could not believe it. After all these years of not talking to anyone about it, all these promise to each other never to take any chance: New-York city and Boca Raton Florida are a small world after all. I wouldn't want him or myself to be in a position where we could be hurt.

I was simply astonished. My Powerful Wall Street man told his friend Allan about our agreement of 8 years in details. My first reaction was: ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND! Why did I feel so uncomfortable with his decision of going public with our life? I personally had nothing to loose after all.

I requested a visit that day at the apt. in New York (I had never done that before, I had always been on his schedule). He came over with bell on as he uses to say. We needed to have a talk. I needed some details about this coming out.

He came and explained that the couples went out together last Saturday night. After dinner, their wives went to the ladies room. Take note ladies: NEVER GO TOGETHER TO THE LADIES ROOM! One must always stay at the table, just in case men would like to exchange confidential extramarital information.

Allan went on first and said to My Powerful Wall Street Man that he had a girlfriend called Michelle for the last 5 years and was now torn apart about what to do. Michelle apparently wanted him to leave his wife for her. He needed some advice. Allan went on saying that he felt someone SPECIAL was also in his life of My Powerful Wall Street Man from New York.

My Powerful Wall Street Man got in details explaining to me what went on. His eyes were glossy of happiness, he finally could share our agreement with someone close to him. My Powerful Wall Street Man explained to me that this moment felt incredibly good to him. To be free to discuss with one of his friend about what was so precious in his heart for so long. After all, eight years is a long time for a relationship like ours.

In full secrecy we lived, no one knew, everyone always believed I was single and busy doing what I had to do, no question asked. If you knew the busy life of My Powerful Wall Street Man and his wife yourself you would have never thought he could have someone who he was in love with and so special in his life during theses last 8 years. I guess it only started to show among his friends, and Allan had the courage to ask him.

He was so happy at this time, his eyes were in tears just to talk about how he felt that last Saturday night about us and going in details about what our agreement to each other and sharing it with his friend Allan. My powerful Wall Street man told me it was the best feeling he experience since the day we met eight years ago.

Suddenly, in this same conversation, My Powerful Wall Street Man asked me if I would like to go out and meet Allan for dinner next week. I was petrified! I needed to think it over for a minute. It was so risky, it could jeopardize everything; our love, our passion. I invested so much into this romantic love story. What if Allan decided to talk? What would happen to me, my feelings and our future together?

As usual, My Powerful Wall Street Man finally convinced me to meet his friend. I got ready after one of his visit and we walked down together on 44th street between 1st and 2nd Avenue to a cheap, cheap, cheap restaurant. Not by choice but we did not want to run into anyone we knew on our first official appearance together in the outer world

How could we explain what was going on? My Powerful Wall Street man and his friend Allan with a tall, young and beautiful lady having dinner? This place was just perfect for the meeting. Chinese food in a basement.

Allan was very nice and talkative about his friendship to My Powerful Wall Street Man. I thought to myself at that time: I have known this man so well for the last eight years and I thank GOD everyday for having brought the two of us together. My Powerful Wall Street Man will bring and reach out for me at a level that no one will never do.

If you ask me now what I think of My powerful Wall Street Man today, I have no words and cannot describe or explain the pain I am suffering and how he is destroying my future. I trusted My Powerful Wall Street man. Every word he whispered to me during these 8 years was gold to my ears. He was my everything. Who is this man today that I thought I knew so well?

You know what? I wished I had met him at an earlier time. Some thirty-seven years ago before he met his wife (although it is quite funny to realize that I wasn't even conceived by my parents at that time!)

We would have lived a simple life together, cooking dinner as I often did when we were together, going to the beach together, swimming in the sea as we used to do each winter in Palm Beach Florida when he was at his secondary residence in Boca Raton Florida for the season. Playing golf would have been so nice. All day together.It was our dream we often talked about: doing activities as a couple.

Instead, we stayed each time in the same bedroom suite at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Palm Beach Florida. He would put on his swimsuit that he left with me years ago, from his home, to bring for him in my suitcase. I still cherish this swimsuit today, with all the letters and jewelries he gave me. I enjoyed so much to be with him in public over there at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Palm Beach Florida. Everyone knew of us at this magnificent hotel.

On another occasion when visiting me in the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Palm Beach Florida, he showed up and asked me if I wanted to see his wife in person! I had seen his whole family on pictures: his wife his two daughters and his two sons in law and and his five grand-children. I realized this was the latest of the many crazy challenges that he loved so much.

His wife had a lunch scheduled with about 8 girlfriends at the Hotel Ritz Carlton restaurant that afternoon. He wanted me just to go in the restaurant, walk by her, see what she looked like in person and return to give my comments about her. I went down to the restaurant and saw her. WOW! She was so different than me! And I wondered: the more money you have, the bigger is your hairdo?

At different times, I also traveled with my other girlfriends in 2002 and 2003. Since My Powerful Wall Street Man had introduced me to Allan, things were different in our relationship. We were more open and free to meet each other friends.

I would bring different girlfriends in each of my trip to Palm Beach Florida for four to five day stays in our suite of the Ritz Carlton Hotel. They couldn't believe how lucky I was to have My Powerful Wall Street Man by my side. The three of us would go shopping, to the movies or for a car ride in his latest black Mercedes, 4 passengers 2003. Car storiesoh God! I will save the details for another chapter

To be continued in more detail